So, I'm going to take a break from the sex stuff for a little while to talk about something often related, but not synonymous - love. It's sort of been on my mind recently.
Go through http://www.5lovelanguages.com/profile/. It won't take more than a few minutes. I don't own the book, don't plan to read the book, am not shilling the book, but the short profile was interesting and oddly soothing. It will also be helpful for understanding the rest of this post.
First I'm going to talk about me, then about each of the main women in the game so far.
BlueWinds: My primary language is Service - "Let me do that for you" is the dearest expression of love I know. When my mother visits, we tend to end up disagreeing whenever we talk, but I finally understand why I feel so much closer to her in-person than over the phone - because she does the dishes. I don't care all that much when she tells me she loves me, but I know she does when she washes the dishes and wipes down the counters while I'm cooking breakfast.
Along those same lines, the recently concluded Image Search Contest and the Image Editing threads on the forum are my favorite parts of this site. People saying "awesome job, really enjoyed the game" are nice, but I feel so warm and fuzzy inside when I realize that people here like the game enough to spend time helping me.
I will never get annoyed with people sending in grammatical nitpicks and typos. I feel super inspired when you spend to time to proofread. I often go directly from correcting typos someone has pointed out to writing more content.
Alison: Alison needs physical contact. As Wend puts it, she won't believe you like her until you've had sex. That's not really true (Wend's exaggerating), but Alison really won't trust you unless you touch her, and let her touch you. A stiff hug is the same in her mind as a hurtful insult. Secondarily, she needs compliments - telling her she's doing good, or that she's pretty or sexy will light up her day.
Antinua: Antinua needs Quality Time. She feels, as much as she feels anything, a warm glow when Hathawa focuses on her, and her alone. She feels needed and important and special when Hathawa someone drops everything to say hello when she enters the room. It's why she and Hathawa get along so well - Hathawa is willing to spend hours curled up in her lap silently or listening to her speak.
Hathawa: Hathawa also needs quality time. She feels distant and unconnected with her parents because they seldom spent time together when she was young. She feels cold and alone at the university because no matter how much her professors smile and know her name, none of them have invited her into their homes. She doesn't know what to do with compliments - they feel forced and artificial, and gifts are just... money. But she knows Antinua loves her because they sleep in the same bed, and Antinua combs her hair, and Antinua likes to take her along when she goes places.
Hilde: Hilde enjoys getting gifts. Not expensive gifts, but just little tokens of appreciation. If you forget her birthday, you're in for a little slice of hell. A little glass bird is crystallized care and thoughtfulness. Paying back your loan on time is not just an issue of trustworthiness, but respect. Despite her physicality, she doesn't really equate sex with love - for her it's more, to be blunt, a form of manipulation.
Wend: Wend is more or less an even split between Words of Affirmation and Gift Giving. She displays the second in a very different way than Hilde - remember all those times she gives you food, whether you wanted it or not? Stuffed a doughnut in your mouth, offered you orange juice, invited you to eat a pineapple with her? Yeah, she was being silly, but she was also being affectionate in the best way she knows how. For her sex is almost the opposite of love. You have sex with people you don't care about.